I would think that most people, at least if they are like me, would rather generate happiness wherever they go rather than whenever they go! And, in the business world, this is an especially important differential. Whether it be clients, staff, or cohorts, if you only generate happiness whenever you go you have a real problem that demands immediate attention!
The first challenge in addressing this is, of course, is determining if people look forward more to having you walk into a room or walk out. To determine if people do, in fact, dread to see you coming look for the following telltale signs:
- Do people become surprisingly quiet when you walk in?
- Do you notice that when you walk in others invariably walk out?
- Do smiles seem to mysteriously disappear when you are around?
If you answered “yes” to even one of these, you need to work on your office-place demeanor!
If you actually care what others think about you, your next task is to determine why others are less than thrilled when you are around. The most obvious way, of course, is to ask someone – but that is not always the easiest. For the sake of our discussion, let’s suppose that you are able to locate someone who is brutally honest and shares all of your foibles – you will then find yourself at the next step: Accepting that you need to change!
Unfortunately many who generate smiles whenever they leave tend to live denying the fact that there is a problem. Once this hurdle is conquered the next step is to go about making the suggested changes. No doubt about it, this may take a good deal of time and an even greater amount of effort. It is not impossible to change when you bring smiles, but it won’t happen on its own, either!