It used to be you were remembered if you were rude ’cause it was so unusual, now you are remembered if you are kind ‘cause it is so unusual!

It used to be you were remembered if you were rude ’cause it was so unusual, now you are remembered if you are kind ‘cause it is so unusual!If one had a barometer that could truly measure society’s demeanor, I think what it would read is a comparative measure of “rudeness” and “kindness.”  And, my guess is that in the last fifty years the pendulum has swung from “kindness” to “rudeness,” almost creating a one hundred eighty degree shift!!!  Now, I’m not quite as cynical as Eric Wareheim, who simply states, “People are rude in general,” for I know that is not true of me.  The question is, especially if you a manager, supervisor, or business owner – are you rude?

In my nearly fifty years of gainful employment, I have worked with, and for, some of the rudest over-seers you can imagine.  And, as you might expect, while they might have gotten the tasks they wanted done accomplished, they never created a sense of loyalty among their staff, and, quite frankly, did not get as much out of their employees as they might have.  You see, the old adage, “you catch more flies with sugar than vinegar” is true and it would do us all well to remember it.

Frequently we forget just how “valuable” kindness can be, though society has known for millennia.  Greek fable writer Aesop shared, “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”  Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu, founder of Taoism, took it even further when he said, “Kindness in word creates confidence.  Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.  Kindness in giving creates love.” And, the Dalai Lama took it to the nth degree when he said, “There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies.  My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.”

The crux here is not only whether you would prefer to be known as “rude” or “kind,” but how do you best want to invest your time.  If you want to stand out in a crowd; if you want to get more out of your staff/employees; if you want to enjoy a calm and gentle spirit, strive to be kind and eliminate any tendencies, and desires, that you may have to be rude.  After all, having people remember you for the right reason is a good thing!

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